A temper tantrum is a common occurrence among many toddlers. It is just a way for him to show his independence. As a baby starts to mature he will want to do things on his own, without interference from an adult. This can often be seen when a child refuses to hold his mother or father's hand or tries to put on his own shoes on. Part of this independence is displayed when the child has a temper tantrum.
A full blown temper tantrum includes excessive crying, kicking and screaming. Some toddlers can get hurt by banging their head or throwing his body onto the floor. The duration depends on how the parent handles the situation. If the parent stays calm and rational the child will eventually calm down. On the other hand, if the adult becomes angry and starts to yell or spank the child the outburst will continue to escalate. This is due to the child becoming frustrated.
The most effective way to end a temper tantrum is to completely ignore it. The child will learn that she doesn't get what she wants this way and will eventually communicate more appropriately with you. This is hard sometimes because others may come over and interfere thinking that they should discipline the child. Let them know that you plan to ignore it so that the tantrum episode will end. Time out can also work here. When the child begins to scream and kick just simply pick up the child and put her in their room. Avoid eye contact. You do not want to give the child any attention because that may be what she is seeking. The outburst should end promptly and the child will be better when the incident. It is important to make sure that the child is not in danger of hurting herself. Make sure there is nothing nearby the child can hurt themselves with.
Talking softly to the child by stating what the child wants is also effective. The child is trying to communicate their feeling, however, he is unable to do this properly. This leads to annoyance for the toddler. As a way to act out and let you know that he is unhappy the child starts to tantrum. By stating what the child wants back to him he can realize that you do understand. This can get him to calm down and listen.
In conclusion it is important to stay calm and to not lose your temper when a child has a temper tantrum. It is also effective to use time out and to restate what the child is feeling. As the child gets older you will be able to rationalize with her. She will be able to understand more and you will be able to explain the situation. If the child wants to stay in the park longer that day you can explain that you have things to do but you will come back. Perhaps the toddler wants to play with something harmful. You can state the reasons why what she wants can cause harm. The tot will also find more effective ways to tell you what she wants.
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Tantrums in toddlers is one of the hardest thing to handle. It test parents patience and love to their children. Yes, one of the good attitude as a parent is to stay calm when our child is throwing tantrums and ignoring them is to let them know that not all what they need are granted. But we also have to bear in mind that SAFETY is the first priority for them especially when they bang their head or throwing his body onto the floor.
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